tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post3961271716291884471..comments2023-05-17T01:18:54.538-07:00Comments on Our Own: School MeetingLorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15553145979283388517noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post-74898350916554202992011-11-02T08:19:17.652-07:002011-11-02T08:19:17.652-07:00I have been following your blog for some time now ...I have been following your blog for some time now and have never commented but just feel the need to now. I am biracial...raised by my white mother and only knew the white side of my family. Who says love isnt enough? I say it is. I have many pictures from childhood that show my momma was not a expert at hair care...what she was and still is...the perfect mom for me. I think its great to expose your child to as much culture as you can and learn together, but the love you give will heal hearts, grow confidence and mold your child into a beautiful person who in turn will now how to love without color boundaries. You are doing a great job. I can feel the love for your children through your words...I know they fill it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post-51678683091984651092011-10-31T12:48:27.875-07:002011-10-31T12:48:27.875-07:00I forgot to mention that when I asked for help of ...I forgot to mention that when I asked for help of the three different African American women...one in a salon, their response to me was not positive nor helpful. One said I shouldn't have adopted an ethnic child, another rolled her eyes and the third told me to Google it.greg's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08665630895735165301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post-81031223849426054392011-10-31T12:46:30.701-07:002011-10-31T12:46:30.701-07:00I agree with the three above comments. I had mixe...I agree with the three above comments. I had mixed feelings and wonder the outcome. Frankly, I wish I had somebody to help, but I have approached a few African Americans in our area (not many live here) to ask for their suggestions on hair products for my two Ethiopian sons. I have a closet full of products worth plenty of money from suggestions off the internet. I spent hours on the floor of the aisles reading to look for such-and-such oil, but not that stuff. I know hair is important, and I respect that...and I'm trying...but my kids might be the ones with the 'messy' hair. I'm not having a pity party - just stating the facts. Most of the ethnic hair I see on grown men is very short. Sure, we can do that, but do I still put a product on their scalps? And frankly, they think having a small 'Afro' is really cool. I try to swollow my pride and let them wear their hair that way never knowing if their hair looks just right. I'm a tactile learner...I need somebody to show me and watch me do it. Do the oils/lotions/whatever go on a wet head? I have read mixed information about when to comb the hair. So while I understand and appreciate what the women were saying, I can feel for that white adoptive mom who is trying her very best. Please, post what you do for Abe's hair. While I cannot tell if it looks dry or not, the style is what my boys want. I'd appreciate knowing the products you use and how/when you apply them/comb, etc. A barber said, "Hair grease!" I live in middle America...It is not in any of the Dollar Stores nor Dollar General (apparently it used to be) nor our Wal-mart. Online, there are many options. I could use some unjudging help in this area! Furthermore, I cringe at the judging b/c I try to throw others a bone. Our sons had such profound fungus on their entire heads that there were still traces of it after 6 months of both topical and oral treatments. Our Dr. said we could not put ANYTHING on their heads, and the medicine made them even dryer looking. So my vanity made me want to hide in our home, but my pride and joy were soaring so much that I wanted to have them with me everywhere...the store, at the park, etc.greg's wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08665630895735165301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post-89766247692186053222011-10-31T11:58:36.442-07:002011-10-31T11:58:36.442-07:00I HAVE TO KNOW about the moment you told her about...I HAVE TO KNOW about the moment you told her about your family make-up. How did that go? Was she a little embarrassed?<br />And I love that you are confident enough not to get defensive instead seeing her as the gift she may be for your family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post-9330366228388190132011-10-30T16:02:53.861-07:002011-10-30T16:02:53.861-07:00I'm sure she is great, and is going to be a wa...I'm sure she is great, and is going to be a warm and good friend and resource to you, but I kind of wince at the idea of her and her buddy so glibly labeling children from the sidelines. Pointing out the failures and foibles of parents, yes. Pointing at children, no?Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02647964918223241848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2877454090421566197.post-64360822264248209872011-10-30T11:26:14.248-07:002011-10-30T11:26:14.248-07:00Well this is totally fascinating. Sounds like a re...Well this is totally fascinating. Sounds like a really interesting woman! That's the kind of profile I wish we did in the OregonianCPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11437909241659432585noreply@blogger.com